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I’ve often wondered what it would feel like to leave everything behind — not metaphorically, but literally. To board a spacecraft, strap in, and watch Earth shrink into a soft blue marble, carrying within it every joy, heartbreak, and unanswered email I’ve ever known.

If you asked me how much I’d pay to go to the moon, my first instinct would be: everything I own. Not because I’m obsessed with space, but because the idea of distance — of being far enough to see life clearly — has always fascinated me.

You see, sometimes we don’t need to fly to the moon to realize how much we’ve been orbiting things that don’t really matter.

When I wrote About Life, Choices, and Potholes, I was in my own kind of launch sequence — leaving behind a career, a country, and a version of myself that no longer fit. I wasn’t chasing adventure; I was chasing clarity. I wanted to look at my life the way astronauts look at Earth — with awe, distance, and a touch of melancholy.

The truth is, the moon is a metaphor.

For that dream we’ve shelved.

For that risk we’ve postponed.

For that version of us we’ve never had the courage to meet.

And just like a lunar mission, the journey costs something — not in dollars, but in comfort, predictability, and the illusion of control.

Leaving the life I built in the US and starting over in India felt, in many ways, like stepping into space. Weightless. Directionless. Terrifying. But also — breathtakingly free. It forced me to question what “home” meant, what success really looked like, and what I was willing to lose in order to find myself again.

So if you ask me now, how much would I pay to go to the moon?

Maybe not everything — because I’ve learned the real magic isn’t up there. It’s right here, in the messy middle of life, where the ground is uneven, the potholes deep, but the view — when you look up — just as vast.

In About Life, Choices, and Potholes, I write about these earthly moons — the leaps that cost us something but bring us closer to who we truly are. Maybe we don’t all get to walk on the moon. But if we’re lucky, we get to walk ourselves home.

About Life Choices & Potholes

If you had asked me a few years ago what I’d like to try for the first time, I might have said something lighthearted — skydiving, maybe salsa dancing, or learning French so I could order coffee in Paris without fumbling. Trying something new used to mean chasing excitement. Something that gave a rush, an escape, a new story to tell.

But then life happened — not the kind of cinematic, neatly tied-up life that changes in a single scene, but the slow unraveling kind, where everything you’ve built starts to loosen, one invisible thread at a time.

For me, the real “first” came not with adventure, but with loss.

After nearly two decades in the U.S., the place that had quietly become home, I was told I didn’t belong anymore. Not in the cruel way of words, but in the sterile language of documents and visa clauses. It’s strange how one email, one legal update, one government notice can undo years of roots, relationships, and routines.

I had a good life there — the kind of “good” that’s ordinary but comforting. A job that kept me busy, a dog who believed the world revolved around me, friends who didn’t look like me but understood me better than anyone ever had. There were grocery store runs in the rain, early morning drives with steaming coffee cups, and lazy Sundays that smelled of pancakes and peace.

And then, just like that, it was over.

When I landed back in India — my so-called home — I carried two suitcases and an ache that had no name. The walls looked familiar, the smells were nostalgic, but I was a stranger in my own story. Everything that once defined me was gone.

So I did something I had never done before — I stopped pretending I had it all figured out.

That was the first time I truly tried something new.

I tried waking up without a plan. I tried cooking breakfast for myself instead of rushing through emails. I tried fasting — not for weight loss, but for clarity. I tried sitting with silence, even when it was unbearable. And most of all, I tried forgiving myself — for not being where I thought I should be, for losing things I once clung to, for falling apart.

In About Life Choices and Potholes, I wrote about this phase — not as a story of triumph, but as one of transformation. Because life doesn’t hand out medals for surviving. It offers mirrors instead — asking us to look closer, to peel away the layers of identity we once thought were permanent.

I remember one afternoon vividly. The monsoon had just started, and I was sitting by the window with a cup of chai, watching the first raindrops gather on the grill. There was something achingly simple about it — the smell of wet earth, the distant honking of cars, the cool air brushing against my skin. For the first time in years, I wasn’t rushing anywhere. I wasn’t chasing goals, or visas, or dreams. I was just being.

That was new. That was terrifying. That was freedom.

Trying something for the first time doesn’t always look like learning a new skill or checking something off your bucket list. Sometimes, it’s learning to live without certainty. To embrace pauses instead of fearing them. To understand that home is not a pin on a map, but a feeling that travels with you.

And maybe that’s what I want this book to remind people of — that every so-called “pothole” in life isn’t a setback; it’s an invitation. An invitation to try again. To rebuild. To become.

So, if you ask me today what I could try for the first time, I’d say —
I’d like to try trusting life completely.
Even when it reroutes me.
Even when I don’t understand where it’s taking me.

Because maybe, just maybe, that’s where all the magic begins.

(From my latest book About Life Choices and Potholes)

I’ve learned that life doesn’t come with a rulebook — just a series of choices and the occasional pothole to remind you that you’re human.

If I had to define the principles I live by, they’d sound something like this:

1. Choose truth, even when it’s uncomfortable.

For a long time, I wore masks — the successful professional, the good daughter, the woman who “had it all figured out.” Then life stripped those layers away. Losing my job, moving back home, sitting in the stillness of uncertainty — it all forced me to be brutally honest with myself. Now, I don’t chase perfection; I chase alignment. If it doesn’t feel like truth, it’s not for me.

2. Trust the potholes.

Every detour I once cursed — every heartbreak, every failure, every delay — has led me somewhere better. About Life Choices and Potholes was born out of one such unexpected turn. What I thought was an ending became the beginning of something real. The potholes teach you patience, humility, and perspective — the kind that no smooth road ever could.

3. Don’t confuse stillness with stagnation.

There were days when doing “nothing” felt like failing — when the silence after leaving a fast-paced life in the U.S. was deafening. But that stillness became fertile ground for reflection. Growth doesn’t always announce itself with motion; sometimes, it whispers through pause.

4. Live gently, even in chaos.

I used to think resilience meant being tough, armored, unshakable. Now I know it’s the opposite. It’s about staying soft — holding your ground without hardening your heart. Whether it’s dealing with family expectations, societal pressure, or self-doubt, I remind myself: gentleness is not weakness. It’s grace under uncertainty.

5. Lead with curiosity.

When nothing makes sense, I ask “Why?” — not to control, but to understand. Curiosity has been my compass through confusion, helping me turn every misstep into meaning.

These aren’t commandments carved in stone — they’re more like post-it notes on the dashboard of my life. Some days I forget them; other days, they save me.

About Life Choices and Potholes is built on these principles — that every fall has wisdom, every detour has direction, and every choice, even the messy ones, carries you closer to who you truly are.

So yes, my principles are simple:
Be honest. Be gentle. Trust the potholes.

Because that’s where the real story begins.

Honestly? Both.

Lazy days are confusing creatures. They begin like a warm hug and end like an existential crisis. At first, you feel gloriously human — sprawled across the bed, sipping masala chai that’s just the right kind of hot, scrolling aimlessly with no guilt in sight. But then, sometime around noon, your brain whispers: “You’re wasting time.”

I used to live on the other end of that spectrum — all hustle, no pause. My days in the US were a blur of deadlines, meetings, and microwaved meals eaten over Slack notifications. Even weekends came with to-do lists. Rest felt like rebellion. But when I moved back to India after losing my job — the so-called “American dream” crumbling beneath immigration paperwork and HR emails — I found myself with an overabundance of time.

You’d think that would feel freeing. It didn’t.

I remember one particular week after returning — jet-lagged, disoriented, sitting on my childhood bed surrounded by suitcases I didn’t have the will to unpack. I had nowhere to be, no job to rush to, no calls on my calendar. Just me, my thoughts, and a very confused dog named Sauli, who couldn’t understand why her human had stopped moving. Those were lazy days, but not restful ones. They were full of potholes — the kind that didn’t exist on roads but in my own mind.

Then, somewhere between the migraines and the monsoon chai, I started noticing how life was quietly rebuilding itself. Lazy mornings became long walks with Sauli. Cooking — something I once dismissed as a chore — became a small ritual of control and care. I started writing again. Not for performance or productivity, but because the silence demanded a voice.

And of course, there were the chaotic “lazy” days that were anything but peaceful — like my cousin’s wedding, when I was supposed to play the role of the dutiful Karauli while simultaneously chasing monkeys off the buffet table, hunting down the groom’s forgotten outfit, and nursing a migraine that could have powered a small city. There was nothing “productive” about those moments — but they were life in motion, the kind you only notice later, when you’ve stopped rushing through them.

Or the lazy day that turned into an accidental adventure — when a simple breakfast outing with my then-fiancé in New York became an unplanned road trip to nowhere. We kept missing exits until we ended up surrounded by snow, mountains, and silence — but no breakfast in sight. It should’ve been romantic, but it wasn’t. We were starving for different things — and that day, somewhere between the missed exits and the empty stomachs, our relationship started to crumble. Lazy days have a way of revealing what’s already falling apart.

Over time, I realized that rest doesn’t always look like lying still. Sometimes it’s walking through uncertainty, sometimes it’s rebuilding life from scratch, and sometimes it’s letting your dog drag you into the park because she doesn’t care that you’re having an existential crisis — she just wants to chase pigeons.

Lazy days, I’ve learned, are where your internal engine cools enough for the truth to surface.

In About Life Choices and Potholes, that truth shows up in small moments: between fasting rituals and career pivots, visa rejections and homecomings, flings and forgiveness. It’s about realizing that you don’t have to be constantly building something to be becoming someone. That stillness, uncomfortable as it is, can be its own kind of progress.

So yes, lazy days make me feel both rested and unproductive. But maybe that’s the point. Maybe rest isn’t about recovering from work — it’s about remembering who you are when the noise stops.

And sometimes, it takes doing absolutely nothing to finally hear that answer.

When I think of the word “successful,” I no longer picture the polished faces on magazine covers, or the well-timed applause echoing through boardrooms. I think of someone standing alone in a quiet kitchen, sleeves rolled up, tears and garlic indistinguishable as they blend into a simmering pot — someone who has walked through heartbreak, chaos, and self-doubt, and still chooses to create something beautiful.

That, to me, is success.

It is the heartbeat behind Beautiful Men: The Chef, the second book in my Beautiful Men series — a world where love isn’t perfect, but real, and healing comes not in straight lines but through the alchemy of the ordinary.

The first book, Beautiful Men: The Dog Walker, began with a simple, almost cinematic image — two strangers crossing paths on a city street, their dogs in tow, their lives unraveling and intertwining in unexpected ways. Some readers called it tender; others called it uncomfortable. One even called the protagonist “nuts.” And yet, isn’t that what love feels like sometimes — messy, inexplicable, slightly mad?

I wanted to capture the ache that comes with wanting deeply — the way modern love stretches between digital screens, algorithms, and silent prayers for connection.

But The Chef moves differently.

It’s less about the longing for someone and more about learning to create with them — in the same way two hands knead dough together, or two hearts share silence over a simmering pan.

Kevin, the protagonist of The Chef, isn’t a perfect man. He’s a chef with a restless soul, haunted by burnout and depression, trying to make sense of the noise within him through the quiet discipline of flavor. Tammy, his counterpart, is a woman of contrasts — logical yet impulsive, grounded yet drawn to passion like a moth to fire.

Their story unfolds in the language of taste: the sweetness of connection, the bitterness of misunderstanding, the umami of growth. Together, they discover that love, much like cooking, isn’t about perfection — it’s about balance, patience, and surrendering to the process.

Success, in this context, is no longer external.
It’s internal — spiritual.

It’s in Kevin choosing to get up after another failed recipe, to try again not just in the kitchen but in love. It’s in Tammy learning to stay open despite her fears. It’s in the courage to admit that vulnerability is not weakness — it’s the purest form of strength.

When I wrote Beautiful Men: The Chef, I wasn’t just writing about food. I was writing about nourishment — the kind that feeds the soul. I wanted readers to taste the butter melting on warm bread and feel the ache of two people realizing that the meal, like love, is ephemeral — meant to be savored, not possessed.

We live in a world obsessed with being seen, liked, and followed.
But The Beautiful Men series invites readers to slow down, to feel again. To see beauty in imperfection, intimacy in silence, and meaning in the most ordinary of moments — a shared coffee, a dog’s wagging tail, a spoon dipped into soup prepared with care.

True success, I’ve come to believe, isn’t measured by applause or accomplishment, but by how deeply we can live — how fully we can love despite knowing that everything we love will, one day, end.

The Dog Walker asked: Can love exist without possession?
The Chef asks: Can love heal what life breaks?

And maybe, when all the noise fades and the lights go out, success is simply this — to have created something beautiful, no matter how temporary, and to have shared it with another soul who truly saw you.

So when I think of the word “successful,” I think of Kevin standing in his kitchen, lost in the scent of garlic and thyme, or Tammy smiling at him across the counter, her heart steady for the first time in years. I think of their quiet triumph — not in grand gestures, but in showing up for each other through doubt, fatigue, and silence.

That’s what the Beautiful Men series is all about — love that humbles, heals, and humanizes.
Not the love that looks perfect in photographs, but the kind that smells of burnt toast, late-night confessions, and forgiveness.

Because in the end, maybe success isn’t about how far we’ve come.
Maybe it’s about how tenderly we’ve lived — and how beautifully we’ve loved.

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Read Beautiful Men: The Chef — a story of food, love, and the quiet courage it takes to begin again.

If I had to name just one red flag that makes me pause, it’s inconsistency.

Not the harmless kind, like forgetting where you left your keys, or changing your dinner order at the last minute. I’m talking about the kind of inconsistency where people’s words and actions don’t line up—where promises float like balloons but never land, and where affection shows up only when it’s convenient.

I’ve lived long enough, and tripped over enough potholes—both real and metaphorical—to know what that kind of inconsistency does. It confuses you. It makes you question your worth. And worst of all, it tempts you into following breadcrumb trails that lead absolutely nowhere.

I’ve seen it in love. Like the man who could charm me on Zoom but turn into a stranger when we finally met in real life. Or the ex who reappeared at a family wedding, smiled sweetly at my aunt, and had her plotting our imaginary reunion while I stood there thinking, This is not the movie she’s writing in her head. Inconsistency has a way of dressing itself up as possibility, but really, it’s just another pothole on the road you didn’t ask to drive down.

I’ve seen it in work, too. The interviews where big companies promise innovation, but what they really want is someone to follow instructions and color inside the lines. The leaders who ask for storytelling, then cut the story short the minute it gets uncomfortable.

And I’ve even seen it in myself—those times I held light for others while hiding in my own darkness, or the moments I chased the “right” career because it looked good on paper, even though my heart was hungry for something else.

Here’s the truth I’ve learned: consistency is not about being perfect. It’s about alignment. Do your actions align with your words? Does your presence align with your promises? Does your life align with what you say matters most to you?

These days, I raise a quiet flag of my own when I sense inconsistency. It doesn’t have to be dramatic—just a gentle mental note that says, Pay attention. This may not be safe ground.

And while I still stumble, I no longer follow every breadcrumb trail. Some paths are not meant for me. Some lessons I’ve already learned. And some red flags, once you’ve named them, no longer need to entangle you.

That’s the kind of wisdom I explore in my memoir, Life Decisions and Potholes. Because life isn’t just about the roads you choose—it’s also about learning which detours aren’t worth your time.

About Life Choices & Potholes

This is the story of my chaos, my pivots, my heartaches, and my laughter—if you’ve ever had life fall apart (and then laughed about it), this book’s for you.