They might not deserve your love but they sure deserve your kindness

I spent a lot of time the past couple of years dealing with a broken heart. There was love that got lost, taken, or simply unreceived. And there I was left to fend for myself. Me and my broken heart.

Dealing with a broken heart is like dealing with a beloved pet who is in pain. There is nothing much you can do besides accepting your brokenness and trying to push forward one day, one moment, one millisecond at a time.

At some point, you get tired of your pain. Your body feels fatigued. Your mind wants to give up. But there it is – your heart, still ailing, still aching.

Every time my heart ached, I felt love for the one she was aching for. Every time I felt love I felt betrayal. I felt like I was betraying myself for feeling love for the very person who broke my heart.

When I felt love my heart felt better. The pain alleviated. When I felt betrayal the heart hurt more. That’s where I got my answer. My heart did not want to feel betrayal, only love. Love for the person who had broken it. Love for the person who refused to receive it. Love for the person who ignored its presence.

So I decided to do justice. I decided to feel love in place of betrayal. I felt love and sent it forth to whoever it was meant for. I continued to do so until my heart stopped feeling pain. Now it only felt love.

Wasn’t it unfair that I was sending love from my heart to the very people who had broken it? No, it was not. It was healing.

I was being kind. In being kind to my heart I had extended my kindness to the ones my heart seeked. And my kindness had healed my pain.

As time passed, I began to realize that kindness was not a sign of weakness, but a profound strength. My heart, fragile and bruised, was learning to heal itself not by harboring resentment or bitterness, but by nurturing the very essence of love that it was built for.

This journey taught me that while not everyone may deserve our love, everyone deserves kindness. Kindness is an act of self-preservation as much as it is an act of generosity. By choosing kindness, I was choosing to protect my heart from further damage caused by negative emotions like hatred and resentment. I was choosing to rise above my pain and not let it define me.

In this process, I discovered a deeper sense of empathy and compassion. I understood that those who had caused me pain were also struggling with their own battles, their own fears, and insecurities. My kindness became a bridge, not to them, but to my own peace and healing. It allowed me to let go of the past and focus on the present, where I could cultivate happiness and contentment.

It wasn’t easy. There were days when my resolve wavered, when the weight of my sorrow felt too heavy to bear. But I reminded myself that healing is not a linear process. It’s a journey with ups and downs, and every step, no matter how small, was a step towards recovery.

Through this journey, I also learned to be kind to myself. I allowed myself to feel my emotions without judgment, to grieve, and to find solace in my own company. I practiced self-care, nurturing my body and mind with patience and love. Slowly, I started to see the world not through the lens of a broken heart, but through the eyes of someone who had survived and grown stronger.

The paradox of kindness is that while it may seem like you’re giving a part of yourself away, you’re actually enriching your own soul. The love I sent out into the world returned to me in the form of inner peace and strength. My heart, once broken, had become resilient. It had learned that love was not a finite resource, but an infinite wellspring that could heal and transform.

In the end, I came to understand that my journey was not just about overcoming heartache but about embracing a way of life that valued love and kindness above all. It was about recognizing the power of my own heart to heal itself and others. And in that realization, I found a profound sense of fulfillment and joy.

So, to anyone dealing with a broken heart, remember this: They might not deserve your love, but they sure deserve your kindness. In being kind, you heal not just your own wounds but contribute to a world that is in desperate need of more love and compassion. And in the process, you’ll find that your heart, capable of immense love, is also capable of immense strength.